As I have touched on in previous posts, parenthood is an art — in the sense that it can be time-consuming, emotionally draining, and stressful. However, just like good art, the parenting process usually leads to overwhelming feelings of passion and accomplishment as you and your child form an irreplaceable bond.
Every parenting experience is a little bit different, as every parent/child bond is unique, but there are several ways you can ensure you are becoming the best parent possible.
Here are a few ways to be a great parent.
Get to know your child
It may seem painfully obvious, but take the time to figure out your child’s personality as soon as possible (this process can begin at a fairly young age). The best parents are both teachers and learners, and in the case of the latter you will want to learn your child’s specific temperaments, habits, fears, and other crucial personality traits that will help the two of you forge a strong bond based on mutual understanding.
Do not be afraid to take charge
Children essentially “crave limits” in that they know no limits until they are set. Therefore, you will want to quickly establish rules and boundaries to keep your child progressing within healthy behavioral and environmental constraints. Parenting this way will allow your child to explore and discover in a safe manner. That said, do not allow yourself to become too strict or too controlling, as this approach may be counterproductive and actually stunt your child’s progress.
Know when to step in
As a new parent, one of the hardest moments you will experience is having to watch your children become upset or disappointed in face of challenges. While your parental instincts will always tell you to step in to protect your children, the reality is that you will have to pick your battles in terms of when you do so. You must keep your children safe when necessary, and you may facilitate their actions from a healthy distance, but you must also allow them to learn valuable life lessons through falling down and getting back up (sometimes quite literally). You will feel even prouder once they have risen above a challenge themselves.
Make time for fun
Though highly important to be a constant mentor to your children, it is also important that you are their friend — that means making time to have some fun. Play with your children as much as you can, letting them choose the activity. If you want to do something a little more reserved, allow them to pick out a favorite book or movie and experience it with them. These moments are the ones that your children will likely remember and cherish above all others.
